Pregnancy and Labor Taggage

This is actually titled First Born but I can’t conform . Tiffany tagged me from Wright Writes.

Disclaimer:  This says “first pregnancy” but my first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. So I’m going to go with my second pregnancy.

1. WAS YOUR FIRST PREGNANCY PLANNED? no

2. WERE YOU MARRIED AT THE TIME? no

3. WHAT WERE YOUR REACTIONS? scared and excited

4. WAS ABORTION AN OPTION FOR YOU? no way

5. HOW OLD WERE YOU? 18

6. HOW DID YOU FIND OUT YOU WERE PREGNANT? I had passed out in the shower. I had to go to the hospital for stitches in my lip. I had bit right through it. I told them when my last period was and they decided to run a pregnancy test because it had been a few months.

7. WHO DID YOU TELL FIRST? My mom during a very heated argument.  She thought I was lying.  Typical.

8. DID YOU WANT TO FIND OUT THE SEX? Yes

9. DUE DATE? 1st due date: April 22, 1996 2nd due date: March 22, 1996

10. DID YOU HAVE MORNING SICKNESS? oh yeah

11. WHAT DID YOU CRAVE? pretzels and ice cream sandwiches

12. WHO/WHAT IRRITATED YOU THE MOST? I was pretty happy

13. WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST CHILD’S SEX? boy

14. DID YOU WISH YOU HAD THE OPPOSITE SEX OF WHAT YOU WERE GETTING? yeah…sorry son…I didn’t know what to do with a baby but I figured if I was having one make it something close to me…lol

15. HOW MANY POUNDS DID YOU GAIN THROUGHOUT YOUR PREGNANCY? 3lbs. The reason was because I was a hefty 127lbs (hefty for my frame). I started exercising and eating healthy when I found out I was pregnant. So by the time he was born I only weighed 130 lbs. (Don’t be jealous…that is what I weigh now a days)

16. DID YOU HAVE A BABY SHOWER? Yep

17. WAS IT A SURPRISE OR DID YOU KNOW? I knew…I’m not a fan of surprises

18. DID YOU HAVE ANY COMPLICATIONS DURING YOUR PREGNANCY? Yeah. Around 3 months or so I started bleeding a little. Then he was overdue.

19. WHERE DID YOU GIVE BIRTH? In a hospital, on the 5th floor, in a delivery room

20. HOW MANY HOURS WERE YOU IN LABOR? Not many. I think I realized I had contractions around 6 p.m. They were never consistent. We decided to go to the hospital, just in case, around 10:30. We lived 45 minutes from the hospital.  He was born at 12:11 a.m.

21. WHO DROVE YOU TO THE HOSPITAL? My mom

22. WHO WATCHED YOU GIVE BIRTH? My mom, baby’s dad, the doctor and 2 nurses

23. WAS IT NATURAL OR C-SECTION? 100% all natural

24. DID YOU TAKE MEDICINE TO EASE THE PAIN? I wanted to but I didn’t get to. By the time we got to the hospital I was dialated to 9 cm. It was too late for drugs.  Thank the good Lord it was a very easy delivery.

25. HOW MUCH DID YOUR CHILD WEIGH? 6lbs 7oz

26. WHEN WAS YOUR CHILD ACTUALLY BORN? May 3, 1996 yep…that’s right 6 weeks after the original due date. He wound up being quite overdue. Don’t change due dates doctors!! If the baby is small…it could just be small!

27. WHAT DID YOU NAME HIM/HER? I can’t tell you but it’s a very cute French name

Hmm…who to tag now. Let’s do the wonderful mommasita’s at these blogs:

Life with my X-men
Okasaneko Chronicles
Sunny Day
Our Life
Paula’s Place

If you ladies decide to play please put a link to your answers so I can find them

Not so good

For my past FX Memories please click this sentence.

I’ve been trying to figure out how in the world to write this post.  I even dug up some of my old journals for entries that may embrace the situation.  No help there. 

Let’s just say that learning Matty’s diagnosis was a pivotal moment in my life and I didn’t handle it well.

As most of you I am adopted.  BUT what you may not know is that I was taken from my adopted family by the state when I was 16 because my mom and I had some issues.  I won’t go into them but they were bad enough for my social worker to remove me.  After quite a few homes I ended up in a group home to finish out my childhood.  Things were worse at home once I turned 18 and my mom and I weren’t any closer.  So upon finding Matty’s fragile X diagnosis I was pretty much alone.  Theresa tried to be there but she was trying to go to a 4 year college 45 minutes away.  Everyone else kind of fell away. 

I went into a very deep depression.  I cried…a lot.  Then I found the one thing I could control…food and exercise.  By the end of the summer I was 92 lbs and 5’0″.  That put me at 3 lbs underweight…and I was stoked about it.  My doctor…not so much.  He told me that I needed to start gaining, get to at least 95 lbs.  If I lost anymore he was putting me in the hospital.  Anorexia was knocking on the door.

So I gained my 3 lbs BUT I started cutting.  I never would have pictured me as a cutter. I have a strong will to live but I cut my wrists.  Cutting is like drugs.  Once started it is really hard to quit and the urge is always in the back of the mind when things get too rough.

And like drugs, one thing led to another.  I started smoking again.  Smoking was something I had done from the time I was 14 but was able to quit when I got pregnant with Matt.  There is much more but I’m sure you got the picture . 

My faith is what pulled me through.  An LDS family took me under their wing.  Though I am no longer of that faith it is what pulled me through the darkness that inhabited my life after Matt’s diagnosis.  I got the help that I needed to realize that I had this precious gift in my hands.  And no one was there to help him succeed in life but me.  I HAD to be strong in order for him to be the best that he could be.  

He was my precious gift.  He was an angel that was sent to me that helped me find who I truly was meant to be in this world. 

I was able to get my weight back in a normal range.  I quit cutting completely by the time I was 20.  My scars are almost 100% gone these days.  Only took 11 years.  And I was able to completely quit smoking. 

I was now healthy and ready to take these things called fragile X and autism by the horns!