I told Rachel’s dad we are moving 1000 miles away. If you have read my blog long enough you would know that his is constantly bailing on his visitation weekend. He rarely comes to her extracurricular stuff. He pays absolutely no child support and refuses to work so he can continue that trend.
So this is the gist of the conversation: stuff in ( ) are my thoughts
Beth: Kevin is getting relocated.
Rachel’s dad: What does that mean?
Beth: We are moving to *#$%@.
Rachel’s dad: Well, I don’t know about that. (i wasn’t asking )
Beth: We are going no matter what. All we have left to do is sell our house and go.
Rachel’s dad: Well, that just breaks my heart. (now you know how she feels when you bail on your weekends with her)
Beth: We aren’t moving to take her away from you. We still want you to be involved in her life. (only cuz that is what she wants)
Rachel’s dad: Then I want her for the summer then. (She can hardly stand the weekend and you want her for 12 weeks)
Beth: We planned to have her come up for a little while over the summer. (like 2 weeks)
Rachel’s dad: And I want her to have a cell phone where I can call her anytime I want. (are you planning on paying for that!)
Beth: We have the long distance plan that caps after a certain amount. We already planned to have her call you about twice a week. We also figured we could set her up an email where she can talk to you and email videos and pictures.
Rachel’s dad: Well, this is a lot to take in so I have to think about this. (Think all you want it is not changing things)
If Rachel’s dad was totally involved with her, Kevin and I wouldn’t even consider moving. But he is constantly breaking this little girls heart. I feel no guilt for moving her away from him. I think he should be happy to get the things he is going to get. Not only that but Kevin even suggested that he could move down there too. For Kevin to say that is huge. He hates the man even more than I do.
Later on in the morning, Rachel called her dad to see if he had an email address to add to her address book. While she was on the phone with him he asked her what she thought about moving. When she said that she wants to go and is quite excited about it. He fell silent and whispered “ok”.
The guy should have taken the chance to be a real father while we were giving him the opportunity.