My Helper

Matthew has become quite the little helper.  On a recent Walmart trip he decided he was up for the challenge to put away the groceries.  I brought everything into the house and then went to the back to put some bathroom things away.  When I got back to the kitchen Matty had cleared a spot in front of the cupboard and was putting things away.

Matty cleared a spot

As happy as I was that he was willing to help put food away many things weren’t quite where they needed to be.  Quite a few things were actually freezer or refrigerator food items!

putting up food

He was just so proud of his hard work that I didn’t fix it until he left the room.  Luckily, it wasn’t much longer after this shot and nothing was ruined :) .

Fragile X Friday ~ May 29

I wanted to start doing Fragile X Friday’s again.  I had thought there was a graphic that another mom created but now I can’t find it. :( Can anyone help me?  If I’m just imagining it then I’ll create one eventually.

I’m going to borrow another article from the Coutilish/Langan clan.  This column is about therapy dogs.  About 5 years ago I had looked into getting a Sissitherapy/social dog for Matthew.  We lived in an apartment and he really needed a “friend.”  The only way we could get a dog was if it was licensed.  But I met my amazing husband, Kevin, who had a pit bull cross that adored Matthew.  Matthew was able to waller all over Sissi and she loved it.  So I passed on getting the social dog for someone who really really needed it.  I think they are an awesome thing for those who need it.  It is amazing what an animal can bring out in any child.

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Ted & the mom Nancy wrote this one.  Addy & the dog Jake come to Andrew’s soccer games.  They’re a great team! ~Mary Beth 

COLUMN NAME: X-tra Special Advice

BY: Mary Beth Langan and Theodore G. Coutilish

HEADLINE: Therapy dog inspires son out of silent world

COPY: Bill and Nancy Doetsch of Grosse Pointe Woods got the idea for a therapy dog for their son, Addy, then 5, after talking with a relative who saw one sitting on an airplane seat in 2001.

“Addy had limited language and was not talking much,” said Bill Doetsch, 42. “We had great results with everything we had tried — dietary therapy, vitamin therapy, auditory therapy, speech therapy, occupational therapy — except for language. The next step was a therapy dog for Addy.”

The family applied to Assistance Dogs of America Inc., which helps children and adults with special needs achieve greater independence by training and placing service and therapy dogs with families. The cost was not cheap at $10,000. The cost today is $15,000.

Within three months, they were approved for a 2 1/2 year old Golden Retriever therapy dog named Jake. “We fell in love with him immediately,” Bill Doetsch said.

Nancy Doetsch, 40, and Addy went through the required special training process. Addy learned how to work with Jake, go on walks, feed and provide him with water. The two quickly bonded.

“There is nothing like watching Addy and his boy Jake play or the unconditional love and bond they share,” Nancy Doetsch said. “His speech really took off after we got Jake.”

Within months, Addy began talking to Jake more than to his parents or his brothers, Alex, now 17, and a junior at Grosse Pointe North High School and Andrew, 18, a GPN senior.

“Jake would listen and love him back,” Bill Doetsch said. “Addy became more social. People would come right up to him to talk about the dog and he would answer their questions. Before he knew it, his social and language skills were developing unexpectedly.”

As time passed, Addy and Jake became inseparable. Addy grew out of his shell and started interacting more with his peers.

These days, Addy, 13, plays Neighborhood Club basketball and Red Barons football, and has age-appropriate friends while finishing up the sixth grade at Brownell Middle School, Grosse Pointe Farms. Plans are to continue attending Brownell next fall as a seventh-grader.

Addy Doetsch has been diagnosed with Aspergers syndome (AS), an autism spectrum disorder. According to Wikipedia, people with AS show significant difficulties in social interaction and restricted, stereotyped patterns of behavior and interests.

None of this matters to Jake, of course, and his BFF.

“He’s a really nice dog and he’s good to me,” Addy said. “He always plays with me and I love him.”

Sometimes, hanging around the doghouse can be a good thing.

For more information about Assistance Dogs of America Inc., visit adai.org.

Grosse Pointe residents Theodore G. Coutilish and Mary Beth Langan created this column to share experiences from their journey as parents of a child with Fragile X Syndrome [fragilex.org]. Send your questions or comments to mblangan@hotmail.com.

Matty’s Class Trip

Matthew and his class had a field trip on the 19th to Golden Corral and our local nature center.  I’m not used to life with lunch at work.  Therefore, at first I didn’t think anything of the field trip.  However, I realized that I have to eat too and I actually am free to eat away from my desk!

I emailed his teacher and asked her about what time she thought they would arrive at Golden Corral.  She said that they planned to get there right when it opened.  This is one of the reasons I love her.  She is a smart woman.  :)

I got with my supervisor and our schedules coordinated so I could go.  Then even more miraculous was that Kevin was able to make it too!  Before I barged into Matty’s land, I asked him if it was okay and he even said, “Yes.”

Golden Corral was so yummy!  I hadn’t been there in quite a while.  I tried to pay for Kevin, Matt & I but the teacher had already paid for Matthew.  Therefore, I just paid for Kevin and me.  Matthews’s good friend, Michael, decided to join us at a table.  He is such a funny kid.  After we had left the restaurant I told my husband that in that family if you don’t want a story told, then don’t let Michael hear it  :lol:

I was gone for an hour and a half eating lunch with that class.  I was glad no one at work said anything about going over my time.  Part of why it had taken so long was because the teacher wound up paying for Kevin and me!  Kevin told her that we had it covered but she made us be reimbursed…after she paid for us.  I’m thinking of a way now to give that $20 back to the class without “offending” the teacher.  Maybe some kind of year-end treats for the kids or something would be nice.

Coming Up…

I have a handful of posts I’m working…

  • Continuation of the Wordless Wednesday Parenting Tips
  • Cast for Kids Update
  • Memorial Weekend Camping Trip Update
  • Conversations from Memorial Weekend
  • School Year End Update
  • Lauren is getting wings
  • Summer Plans
  • Rachel and the new counselor/meds
  • Matty Summer dentist appointment ~ will he ever like the dentist??
  • And much more :)

Cast for Kids

castLast Saturday was our annual Cast for Kids even.  Cast for Kids is AMAZING!!  Seriously, if you have a special needs child, check out the website and see if an event is going on in your area.  It is so much fun and the kids love it. And it’s FREE!!  So what are you waiting for?  Go check out http://www.castforkids.org/.

For the first time ever we took a sibling on the boat with us.  So this year it was me, my dad, Matthew & Lauren.  We had a great time.  Matty was so funny.  And a smidge annoying.  If we heard him say, “Where is him, Grandpa?” one more time he could have been left on shore :lol: . The fishing kinda sucked because the lake had rose a foot a day from snow run off.  But that didn’t matter much. 

We only caught 2 fish.  The first one we caught Matty was pretty stoked about.  But the second it got in the boat he was yelling for us to toss it over the fishing2other side.  His grandfather’s taught him well about catch and release.  The second fish that was caught had him scrambling to the back of the boat.  Silly boy.

After fishing we had a BBQ and the kids were given goody bags and awards.  Matthew doesn’t care about much of that.  Just the food :)  .  The state police came with their command center, cars, chopper and boat for the kids to check out.  And Cold Stone Creamery gave free ice cream!  It was very yummy.

We can’t wait until next year.  And Lauren and I are hoping that she doesn’t have a sprained ankle so we can volunteer more ;)